I was talking with a guy in the gym who pays his child support. WOW! Among the usual lunch bums at the Y yesterday, we were having a casual conversation about life and relationships and he stated this 3 times, like he needed us to bestow credit upon him for this extraordinary feat. The moment I hear another sperm-donor, father, dad, pop, or baby-daddy tell me he pays child support, I will grow another arm out of the side of my head! UUGGGHHHH! YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT IF THE CHILD IS YOURS! Stop acting like you deserve a badge for it.
Do you walk around telling people you breathe, “Man I breathe and take care of my lungs.” Will I ever hear you say that? Paying support to your child is what breathing is to lungs or the brain or the heart…..they need it to survive. I long for the days where children are supported even if the mother is “trippin”. What does that have to do with the welfare of the child? Fathers, do your part so that you are able to look that grown child in the eye and say, “I did ALL that
I was supposed to do financially, sometimes more and ALL that I could do lovingly.” Stop giving the mothers the power to say you did not. It aint cute Daddy. I see so many “baby-daddy’s” around looking “hood-clean” and even more often just clean, and the baby is at home with a mother struggling and doing God knows what to provide for a responsibility that should be shared.
My hats are off to single mothers. I had no idea what they went through until my first child was born. My wife can remember me crying as she was attempting to go to the bathroom, with my assistance, a day after my daughter was born. I could not fathom her having to do THAT simple task without my help. She seemed to be in so much pain. I appreciated her so much at that moment and thought to myself, “….millions of women in the world and THIS one decided to give her body to have MY baby.” To me it was spiritual and enlightening. At that moment, I could not understand a man not being supportive of his child AND THE MOTHER OF THAT CHILD.
Stop taking pride in doing what you are SUPPOSED to do fathers and start taking pride in going above and beyond. I am not proud of you for paying your child-support, you are supposed to! I am not proud of you for breathing, you are supposed to do that too!.............if you are not dead!