First let me state to premise of this writing. A MAN CAN MAKE A LIE LIVE FOR AT LEAST A YEAR! There, I said it. It saddens me that women continue to fall in love, or lust, with the dream of what he should be. This is while they are ignoring what he is.
I do understand that love and lust are many times blind, but do not confuse the two with justice (which should be blind). In the first 365 days of your courtship you are in awe of whatever that thing is that has you most smitten by your interest. In this awe our simple common sense seems to escape us. This is especially true of women. Often you are in bliss and oblivious to the blatant statements of “dirty dog”, or “bum”, or “lazy bastard” that he puts out for everyone to see…..that is, except YOU. If he was married, you usually knew this but chose to ignore it because of some other temporary bliss you are feeling. It won’t last.
Stop being blinded by the “makeup” and notice what his face really looks like. Give yourself some time to get over the bliss and come down to the reality of : Does he love God, How does he treat those which he claims to love the most(his children and his mother), Where does he spend his money(this is where his heart really is), Who are his friends and are they good people, What are his future plans for his life? This simple approach would help people avoid many disastrous life choices. The greater fault, to me, lies with the older women that know this and do not share this with the younger ladies AT AN EARLY AGE. So the cycle repeats.
As a man, I can hide almost anything from a woman for a year, A YEAR!! IF she gets too close, most of us have enough game to PUT HER BACK IN THE PLACE WHERE WE WANT HER……don’t go through it in 2010 ladies. Give the courtship time to mature or metastasize…you will not be sorry.