Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Just because you are a baby-mama, does not necessarily make you a mother Hun.
Let’s get this straight. All men are not horrible, or dogs, or deadbeats, or bums. There are still good men out there. Let’s get this straight also. All “baby-mamas” and ex-wives are not saintly; holding their own in this crazy world, thumping their Bible’s every night either.
Yesterday we talked about “I’m proud because I pay child-support” guy. Please don’t think anything I write is inclusive of EVERYONE, I repeat, please don’t think anything I write is inclusive of EVERYONE. That guy needed his issue and I fully intended to give it to him yesterday. Hopefully, I met with some success. There are some struggles out there with good guys that just want to be good fathers to their children and are up against the dreaded SCORNED WOMAN. I really feel sorry for this man and applaud his unusual patience. I know some of you, Tony and Andrew to name just two.
Just because you are a baby-mama, does not necessarily make you a mother Hun. There are some downright WRONG women out there that, for whatever reason, punish their children in their attempt to get at the father. This is ridiculous and should be punishable by a nice five finger open hand smack in the mugshot….but I don’t advocate violence (lol). There needs to be more justice for fathers that do what is required and/or more and are confronted with a woman that still doesn’t think it is enough. The money is for the child, not for you and your new endeavors (or man).
Although the daddy is the father of the child, in actuality, we went half! Where is her half? Although she is the custodial parent, sometimes undeservedly, she needs to realize that SOME support needs to come from her as well! I am not speaking of you sisters that are out there getting it or the sisters that are TRYING to get out there and get it, Love you all and keep doin what you do with your beautiful selves. But tell ya homegirl, you know, the one that refuses to work, that she needs to step her game up. If she doesn’t have the kids, tell her she needs to pay something, SOMETHING! My boy Andrew has not received a dime in support for his two children EVER. His oldest is on her way to UT-Austin next year and the other child is following in her large footsteps. This brother is to be commended. He has been doing it all alone from the parent perspective. His struggle has been great, I am his witness. Why is this brother having a hard time finding a GOOD woman? Another friend is catching grief from an ex-wife who thinks that he should be responsible for her and her new man, I use the term MAN loosely. Why is the suffering of the good brothers unnoticed? Where is their Maury Povich? Who tells their story to all those women that think that there are no good men out there? God knows I hope all that is due to the good brothers, they get. I also hope that all that is due to those bad “baby-mama’s” THEY ALSO GET!